Mother’s Day 2016

Good morning, and Happy Mother’s Day.

Holidays and parties are HARD for our family. We need to prepare by doing a lot of resting prior, and then we must prepare for the inevitable meltdowns and struggles that will follow. Beth and Anne can usually “hold it together” while we are there, because they truly WANT to be there. The problem is that it is too much for their systems, especially Beth. The one thing our loved ones will never understand is the “happy meltdown.” The “happy meltdown” is the fallout as Beth’s system tries to process all the excitement and happy she experienced at the gathering.

After many PAINFUL holidays this past year, we are doing things differently. It is upsetting to people that want to see the girls at parties, but I cannot please everyone and my girls’ mental health cones first. So today, I will spend the morning with my amazing daughters, then this afternoon I will go visit with my family (mom, gram, aunt, etc…) to celebrate Mother’s Day. Our decision was not popular, but I must admit that once it was made, I felt like the weight of the world had been lifted from my shoulders.

Today is Mother’s Day, and EVERY Mother should celebrate in a way that puts a happy in HER heart. We should not celebrate in ways that only make others happy. We must put ourselves first sometimes, and today is the perfect day to do that.  Remember Different is just different; it is not better or worse, and you need not justify your choices to anyone. May your day be filled with laughter and love; may it also be meltdown free and relaxing.

 

Have a blessed day everyone, and don’t forget to smile. ♥

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Healing Touch

Have you heard of Healing Touch? If not here is a great post that explains Healing Touch.

On Saturday, I had a Healing Touch session with Sarah, from Color My Spirit. In this session, the intention was to work on Beth, through me. I was the one on the table, while Beth was at my parents house playing the day away. Before I left for my session, I put Chakra Balancing Oils on both Beth and myself. I also put a Chakra ring on both us. I then brought a picture of Beth, for Sarah to have during the session. Since Beth loves rocks, and is always on a quest for the perfect gold one, Sarah also placed a beautiful pyrite stone (amongst others) by Beth’s picture.

We talked about what I hoped to achieve through the session. My main goal was to help Beth process, and move on from, the negative energy that resulted from bullying. She had been bullied for months in public school, and is still trying to work through all those emotions. Beth is Autistic, and for her that means her memories are sensory based. Unfortunately, many activities such as painting, eating, playing, etc… tend to bring back painful memories from her experiences at public school. Sometimes she talks about how sad she is, while other times she has massive meltdowns. I am doing my best to help her work through her emotions each time she shares an incident with me, but I was hoping Sarah and Healing Touch could help her on another level.

The session was amazing! The energy that comes from Sarah vibrates in the air when she is working on me. When we started I had a lump, that felt like a rock in the upper left side of my chest. As the session progressed, the pain and weight I felt in that spot slowly dissipated. At times I had to take a deep breath, from the power of the energy moving through me. During the session, I felt another rock-like lump manifest in my lower abdomen and slowly travel up toward the center of my chest, where it rested, before dissipating as well. There were moments, when I felt as though I would weep, and others when I smiled from immense feelings of joy. Toward the end of the session, Sarah was moving her hands from my knee to my toes in a sweeping motion. Each time her hands swept downward, I felt as though she was pulling something out of me. My arms automatically stretched toward her, and I felt as though I was fighting to keep my body flat on the table. It was as if whatever she was focusing on, was being dragged out of every fiber in my being.

I pray this helps Beth. The overwhelming feelings of peace and love that I felt at the end of our session, is something I pray my children feel countless times in their life. Today Beth and I are exhausted, despite both of us sleeping very well last night. Sarah warned that we may feel more tired in the coming days, as our bodies detox from the negative energy she attempted to remove. I will be watching Beth in the coming weeks to see what changes are apparent. I will also be paying close attention to myself, since Sarah sensed that I must heal my own (old) wounds in order to fully help Beth heal hers.

There was one new thing today. For the first time, while talking about the boys who tortured her, Beth said: “I don’t like K anymore. He said I was bad team, but he is bad team and I don’t like him anymore!” This is HUGE, because just a few days ago, she was still crying about how he broke her heart because she wanted to be his friend and he didn’t like her. This change in her dialogue is like a beacon of hope for me! It is the shining star that tells me, she will not only overcome this, but she is going to use it as a base for something wonderful.

I believe the Lord has great plans for Beth. I know she will encounter good and evil on her path. I also know that when she must endure the bad, He will help her heal, and take what she needs from those events. I am very thankful that He has blessed us with people like Sarah, to help her on her journey.

 

Have a blessed day everyone, and don’t forget to smile. ♥

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Clothing Optional

Our house has been a “clothing optional” house (diaper and underwear are required) since our children were old enough to take their clothes off  This is something that has always bothered Henry, but he is slowly coming to accept that it is what it is. Beth’s OT told us long ago that she needs somewhere to be completely comfortable (sensory-wise especially) and home should be that place.

There are some who may think “naked-time” is an Autism thing, but it is not; I know many people with neurotypical children who also partake in “naked-time.” Although, I do know that while some do it out of comfort, many times my kids do it out need. This became evident, when I realized that my husband has to strip down to his boxers as soon as he gets in the house, because he is simply too warm; just like I have to take off my shoes/socks as soon as I get home because my feet are boiling. We ALL have sensory needs, and embracing them does make for a better day (most times).

Fun fact… I shared a room with my extremely prudish grandmother most of my younger life, and was taught to always keep my body covered. It is a good thing she doesn’t come over, because she would have a conniption at how often my girls are just in underwear/diapers. This weekend when my silly girls demanded I be “naked-baby” like them and daddy, all I could do was laugh as I heard gram’s appalled voice in my head. We closed all the blinds and eventually they convinced me to strip down to my bra and underwear, and I have to admit, it felt kind of nice; however, after 20 minutes I had my pajamas back on. Baby Steps. 🙂

Monday the storms in our area broke our air-conditioner; so yesterday was an extremely hot and sticky day in our apartment. It was a very good reminder of why “clothing optional” is the rule in our home. Beth’s system cannot handle heat, and she was miserable to the point that everything, even things she would normally enjoy, bothered her. She had an extremely “off” day due to not being able to regulate the temperature in her body. Even though we hid in our bedroom most of the day, with the small a/c unit, it was not enough because every time we ventured elsewhere in the house she was overwhelmed with heat again.

The girls slept in our room with daddy, so they could be cool and comfy; as I was laying in Beth’s bed, reflecting on our day as I always do. I had to add “naked-time” to my list of blessings, not only for the day, but for our new homeschool journey. Both girls are much happier in their underwear/diapers, and this year they will be able to enjoy a “clothing optional” school, which in my book is pretty cool. 😉 Imagine the possibilities for what the mind can achieve, when the body is completely comfortable…

Have a blessed day everyone, and don’t forget to smile. ♥

 

 

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